Some of you may know, I got engaged to my ever-love on Good Friday.
I’m so excited, after telling all my clients’ love stories for years, to be working on my very own is much better than I could have ever imagined.
A few folks have noticed that I am wearing a ring already and asked if we already got married and why I’m wearing it… It’s my engagement ring!
To understand my engagement ring, you need to know that the purpose of relationship, in my eyes, is to care for one another… To love one another very well.
This maybe an oversimplification, but I’m going with it (obviously there’s many other benefits such as growth, companionship and a tool for sanctification – But in my mind those are benefits and not the purpose of relationship) 😉
I’ve always thought it strange that women wear rings, an outward sign of commitment, at the moment of engagement but guys don’t until they’re married.
As it turns out: There’s not really any good reason for this one sided signaling to the world you’re taken. Rings have been a part of marriage for a long time, often times in Middle Eastern culture as a sign that the man respects and trusts his wife with his estate and household, a sign to others.
As modern Western culture has evolved into a more consumer driven society, jewelry companies have done a really good job pushing us to buy engagement rings, and spend lots on them, before the wedding. The problem is, it’s just very one sided.
Part of loving Sarah, my ever-bride, really well is telling her heart, my heart, (and the outside world) that I am hers and she is mine, I am taken. So wearing my little silicone wedding band (my dad has been a 9 fingered daddy my whole life…) as my engagement ring is one little step in that effort.
Added bonus: Sarah bought me my ring and proposed to me with it, on one knee and all. Not sure what you call a proposal, after you’ve already proposed yourself? I said YASSS! (me wearing the ring as my engagement ring was 1000% my idea – not influenced by Sarah in the least)
What do you say fellas? How about you ladies? What’s your thoughts?
Should more guys wear engagement rings or am I just cray-cray?
P.S. a HUGE thanks to my dear dear friend Justin Wright for capturing my proposal so well. I love you buddy 🙂